Re: OT - Wish me luck ...
Alan Hamilton
>Clay,
I think that for everyone who has quit there is one, and only one way to succeed: his or her way. So I'll tell you the way I quit. It may help.
I smoked two and a half packs of Marlboros every day. I thought I ought to quit, but I couldn't. It was beyond me for whatever reasons. I stopped, and started, several times.
I made another vow, and adopted a method that worked for my brother in-law. I decided upon a day that I would quit, and psyched myself up for what I figured would be a struggle. Having a particular day, marked on the calendar, helped me marshall my energies. This time!
One evening, some weeks before my scheduled stop day, I was sitting up, reading a book, and of course, smoking a cigarette. I had most of the pack left, and a nearly full carton in the drawer. After all, my stop day was many days hence. But for some reason it hit me. I looked at the cigarette in my hand--about half smoked--said to myself "I don't want to smoke any more," and stubbed it out.
I haven't smoked a cigarette since. But what's more important is that I haven't wanted to smoke a cigarette. Really. I've had no cravings, not even any temptation. I don't want to smoke any more.
What's so different that this time I could quit so painlessly after so many failed attempts? Easy: before this time I always thought I ought to quit; this time I actually wanted to quit. Thinking I ought to quit wasn't strong enough; it didn't help me at all when it was time for a smoke. Not wanting to smoke meant there were no times for a smoke. I wasn't an ex-smoker; I was a non-smoker.
It's my theory that people are rarely successful quitting unless they really, strongly, definitely want to quit. There is a physical addiction, I know, but that can be easily overcome if you really don't want another cigarette.
I hope some part of this helps you. Be comforted that so many have been able to quit. It can be done!
Alan (going on and on and on and....)