Here's what I'd do....
Bryan Danner, Broad Ripple, IN
>For you friend, talk to an occupational therapist about her questions. She may want to see one to properly rehab from the accident.
For your surgery, I'd really recommned extensively educating yourself before the surgery. The first time I had surgery, I didn't know what to expect about the recooperation, and the surgeon was little help. Partly because I didn't know the right questions to ask, and partly because my surgeon really didn't deal much with the re-hab end of things.
Think of all the questions you want answered, and discuss them with your surgeon. If they don't seem able to answer them to your satisfaction, you may want to consider going to another surgeon for advice or a second opinion (I really wish I had done this). Also, get the name of the occupational therapist that will be working with you during rehab, and ask them the same types of questions.
Ask questions like:
1) What will the first 24 - 48 hour of post-op be like for me from a mobility and pain stand-point?
2) How intense will my pain be and how long will it last?
3) What kind of medication will I be on, how long will I be on it, and how should I ween myself off of it (it's bad to go completely cold turkey on some types of pain meds)?
4) What will my rehab involve, and how long will it last?
5) What should my milestones be during my rehab process, and how quickly can I expect to acheive them.
There are lots of other things to ask, but this is just a starting point.
Good Luck!
-Bryan